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With the "Fifty Shades of Grey" Movies hitting the filcks, chances are you have some more than sexy thoughts and new ideas springing to action! Well, if that is you, then read on...

Believe me, if you've seen the trilogy and thought, ummm maybe it's my turn, you really are not the only one! Most of us would perhaps consider ourselves more open minded than generations gone before. The truth is we live in a cosy little box in reality when it comes to all thing sex. This really is no issue, however have we been suppressing some of our deepest desires just for a level of sexual conformity?

What really is BDSM and Fetish Play?

There are many derivates of the sexy action, but here at Adult Planet, we like to explain in three areas:

  • Bondage & Discipline

This is an area of play where one submissive partner is consensually restrained, bind or tied for erotic stimulation. There are many ways in which the partner could be restrained with ropes, cuffs or bondage tape

  • Dominant & Submissive

Dominance and submission is a way of behaving, the use of different customs, and various rituals. This play involves the submission of one person to another in an erotic way. Physical contact is not always necessary, and can certainly build the excitement! The perfect toys for these games are Blindfolds, Masks and Hoods, Collars or Gags and Bits

  • Sadism & Masochism

S&M is the giving or receiving of pleasure from acts involving the infliction of pain or humiliation, either giving or receiving. There are many ways this can be achieved, its all down to your own imagination and pain/erotic tollerance! To find some ideas to get you started, take a look at our Floggers, Whips and Crops, or Chastity Devices

So, you may have an idea where you'd be keen to get started, but we would love to give you some real staring points with our "Top Tips"

  1. Really get comfortable and acquainted with your desires and fantasies. Put aside any shame you may have, those taboos are long gone!
  2. Get a clear understanding of what erotic fantasies you (and your partner) are willing to try! Communicate and ensure you are both on board.
  3. Go for ONE adventure at a time. This is really important to do as it prevents any overwhelming, it gives you the chance to explore and understand the elements of play that really get you going, and then you can build on and have more fun with more complex play in the future! Lots to look forward to!
  4. Set. Your. Boundaries. This is what it says on the tin! You and your partner both need to know what is ok and what's not ok. This may change so ensure you communicate your new desires in the future. Think questions such as 'is hair pulling ok?', 'what would you like to be called' or 'when do you want sexual stimulation; before, during or after?'. Build trust with your partner and ensure you agree the boundaries every time you play.
  5. Move Slowly! Build up your intensity, this builds trust and ensures noone will get hurt. Try using a scale of 1-10 then you can ensure you know how much intensity your partner is comfortable with.
  6. Check-in when you're done. Take some time to talk with your partner about how your explorations have gone. Find out how it could have been made better. There is no right time to do this, straight after or even the next day, but be sure to have that conversation!
  7. Continue to be open to new explorations. There is so much to explore, and even though you will start slowly and build, keen an open mind and never say never!
  8. Enjoy! This should be something you do to enhance your sex life and explore your new sexual desires, but should be done at your own pace, in your own time with your own limits! 

 

With the "Fifty Shades of Grey" Movies hitting the filcks, chances are you have some more than sexy thoughts and new ideas springing to action! Well, if that is you, then read on...

Believe me, if you've seen the trilogy and thought, ummm maybe it's my turn, you really are not the only one! Most of us would perhaps consider ourselves more open minded than generations gone before. The truth is we live in a cosy little box in reality when it comes to all thing sex. This really is no issue, however have we been suppressing some of our deepest desires just for a level of sexual conformity?

What really is BDSM and Fetish Play?

There are many derivates of the sexy action, but here at Adult Planet, we like to explain in three areas:

  • Bondage & Discipline

This is an area of play where one submissive partner is consensually restrained, bind or tied for erotic stimulation. There are many ways in which the partner could be restrained with ropes, cuffs or bondage tape

  • Dominant & Submissive

Dominance and submission is a way of behaving, the use of different customs, and various rituals. This play involves the submission of one person to another in an erotic way. Physical contact is not always necessary, and can certainly build the excitement! The perfect toys for these games are Blindfolds, Masks and Hoods, Collars or Gags and Bits

  • Sadism & Masochism

S&M is the giving or receiving of pleasure from acts involving the infliction of pain or humiliation, either giving or receiving. There are many ways this can be achieved, its all down to your own imagination and pain/erotic tollerance! To find some ideas to get you started, take a look at our Floggers, Whips and Crops, or Chastity Devices

So, you may have an idea where you'd be keen to get started, but we would love to give you some real staring points with our "Top Tips"

  1. Really get comfortable and acquainted with your desires and fantasies. Put aside any shame you may have, those taboos are long gone!
  2. Get a clear understanding of what erotic fantasies you (and your partner) are willing to try! Communicate and ensure you are both on board.
  3. Go for ONE adventure at a time. This is really important to do as it prevents any overwhelming, it gives you the chance to explore and understand the elements of play that really get you going, and then you can build on and have more fun with more complex play in the future! Lots to look forward to!
  4. Set. Your. Boundaries. This is what it says on the tin! You and your partner both need to know what is ok and what's not ok. This may change so ensure you communicate your new desires in the future. Think questions such as 'is hair pulling ok?', 'what would you like to be called' or 'when do you want sexual stimulation; before, during or after?'. Build trust with your partner and ensure you agree the boundaries every time you play.
  5. Move Slowly! Build up your intensity, this builds trust and ensures noone will get hurt. Try using a scale of 1-10 then you can ensure you know how much intensity your partner is comfortable with.
  6. Check-in when you're done. Take some time to talk with your partner about how your explorations have gone. Find out how it could have been made better. There is no right time to do this, straight after or even the next day, but be sure to have that conversation!
  7. Continue to be open to new explorations. There is so much to explore, and even though you will start slowly and build, keen an open mind and never say never!
  8. Enjoy! This should be something you do to enhance your sex life and explore your new sexual desires, but should be done at your own pace, in your own time with your own limits! 

 

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